I was given an affirmation to try by http://gtsphotos2012.wordpress.com/ who suggested I look into a mirror and say ‘You are special and deserve happiness’ So I did!
Excuse the bed hair but I just got up! 
Also My cam thing cuts out when I try to say it again.. and I have no idea why that happened ..(I think I may have to delete some of the other vids on there!)
It was hard not to laugh at first I think because I find it difficult to take compliments especially from myself. Sociologically speaking apparently Americans find it easier to give and receive compliments than people from Europe can so maybe I can ask my American friends for help with this!!
Anyway, When I said it it felt genuine and now I feel a bit of a warm glow, like I have been nice to myself.. It’s sort of the same feeling as when I buy myself a book actually!! I think saying something like this into the mirror every day really could work ..neurons and positive affirmation and all that..
I’m going to start doing it every day!! Thanks again blog pal for the suggestion!!
Again.. excuse the Bed head!
Love light and happiness. xxLisa
I sort of do this. Not into a mirror, but I try to think about 5 positive things about myself and my life every morning. Sometimes it is a struggle, but other days it is easy. If you want to smile, go to youtube, and look up ‘Jessicas Daily Affirmation’. It’s heart warming! x
I will do..once I get some work done.. I have been procrastinating!! :/
Thank you for the suggestion and recommendation!
xxLisa
I started doing this at 18, but I was telling myself that I was beautiful. At first it was so difficult, and I had to fake it for months. But then I started feeling okay about how I looked, and after a couple of years (what can I say – it’s a process!) I really started to believe that I was beautiful.
But, last week I filmed a testimonial for a coach I’m working with for her newsletter, and when I finally looked at it (today) all of my old insecurities came up – I hated my teeth, I thought my skin wrinkled too easily and my wide range of expressions seemed out of place when I looked at other testimonials, which were either smiling or serious.
My beloved looked at me and couldn’t believe how hard I was on myself, so I took a deep breath, sent it to my coach, and realised it might be time to start looking in the mirror again.
Congratulations on getting started with this – self-love and affirmations are such great tools, especially when you take the time to use them
I am so glad you are going to get back to your self affirmations!!. I can really see how if you keep saying and thinking thing even if you don’t believe them at first that you will end up believing what you say/think.
I think that body/self positivity is very important. I might say something new every day this week and see how I get on!
Best wishes!! xxLisa
Uh… I think Americans are very good at giving compliments, but I still think it is difficult to receive them. (At least for me.) Maybe I am a rare American
or maybe it is just hard to be gracious and accept complements for most people. We are taught to be humble, but I think adults forget to teach us that humble doesn’t mean you deny yourself the ability to feel you are beautiful, talented and wanted. I am still on that journey somewhere, but it gets better with age 
Just so you know, I think you are a talented writer, and have a great sense of humor. You know how to look on the bright side even when things aren’t going exactly the way you want them to. Go Lisa!!!
<3 Rebecca
Wow.. thank you.. *BLUSH* ..I will accept that slowly and graciously!! Not sure I believe it yet but …I will get there!
You are a special type of human! Kind, thoughtful and creative. The world needs more of you but there can only be one! (That sounds a bit like Harry potter.. or Highlander or something!!)
xxLisa <3
It looks funny, and kinda sweet. Thanks for telling me how special I am and how much I deserve to be happy
It’s true, Europeans tend to not give many compliments. I get the impression that Europeans look for pretense behind compliments instead of just accepting them. Maybe that’s just me reading too much into things 
Anyway, you’re special and you should be happy. Nobody deserves it more than you do.
Another trick is to write, or get friend or partner to do it, loads of compliments about yourself – from the profound to the stupid and funny – nd stick them around any mirror you use regularly, so that every time you look in the mirror you get a compliment. i did this for a while as a teenager when i was depressed and recently did so for a friend with self esteem issues and she was surprised t how much it helped over a few months
That’s a great idea!! I’m going to do that too!
Might wait till the weekend and I can do that one with my partner because her self esteem isn’t great either. We can chant ourselves awesome!!
Thanks Fay! xx <3
chanting yourself awesome sounds like a good plan. also like the name of a lame self help book but never mind!
it really works if you do it for each other, it can be fun as well as helpful. examples i did for my friends ranged from ‘your loyalty and openness attracts people which is why you have so many friends’ to ‘are you from mars? cos your ass is out of this world!’
I think we must write a really lame self help book called “Chanting your awesome arse to Mars” !!
Yeah.. I think I am going to do ‘day’s’ ..like one day I will do ‘Body’ then ‘living situation’ (lol that sounds adult..or boring) then say stuff that people have said to me..
I am winging it ,,my penguin loving friend!
<3 xx
or, if this doesn’t work, just replace your mirror with a picture of a penguin. then you’ll always be happy because you’ll be the cutest thing on the planet! I’ve just realised that my mirror is in fact penguin shaped…when did I cross the crazy line?
I can totally attest to affirmations working. you don’t even have to believe them at first but the longer you say them the more they will take root in your brain. It’s taken a long while for me to realise this but it does totally work! By the way I suffer from BPD and Clinical Depression also…what labels!!!!!! Keep up the great work!
Gah! Labels suck.. I have Chronic anxiety and agoraphobia.. Meh! I am sure I used to have BPD but was never diagnosed because I never went to the doctors but I pretty much ticked every box.
xxLisa
I am so glad that your positive affirmations worked!!
Thank you for your positivity!
Good exercise for sure! Thanks for the follow also
Indeed. I am looking forward to trying it.
Really enjoying reading your blog. You seem very honest and to the point which is brilliant!
xx
My former psychologist got me to say affirmations to myself in a mirror when I had very low self-esteem. At first it felt stupid and awkward but after awhile they began to feel more genuine! So, like repeated negative comments get stuck in our brains, repeated affirmations can get stuck too. I don’t know about you but I’d much rather have the affirmations stick over the negative stuff.
Totally!! Your psychologist knew her stuff!! I hope you feel more positive than negative now.
If it makes me happier, I’m doing it! There’s another mantra!! lol
I must admit to feeling a wee bit daft today….erm seeing as I am doing it in front of you guys too..but ach well.. what’s a bit of embarrassment between friends!!
xx
LOL, yup. You’re brave to do your affirmations online. I could barely look at myself in the mirror never mind videotaping myself and posting it to youtube!
The affirmations I did were “I love myself” and “you are special” because I didn’t have any self esteem and felt terrible about myself. I feel a lot better now though
I am not yet ready for affirmations. Would not believe them.
But for you, You are special and deserve happiness. =)
Though I think the point is that if you say them often enough you start to believe them. Some of the things I will be saying I won’t totally believe but I’m going to say them anyway.
Our brains are really good at making patterns, this is why particular places make us sad or we develop anxieties about certain things. If our brains are going to make us sad/anxious we would be as well forcing them to make us feel good about ourselves.
Every time you look in the mirror and say ‘I am beautiful, I am a worthwhile person.. etc’ neural connections form in your brain. The more you say it the stronger these connections become until they are stuck there. There is actually a lot of science behind the idea of this.
When you feel ready you should give it a go. What harm can it do!
(((hugs))) Lisa
Affirmations are great! Sometimes I say them to myself on my lunch break in my car.
I don’t even care if people think I’m crazy.
Good on you!!!!
I think we spend far too much time caring what people think of us anyway!!
I hope it is working for you!
Love and light xxLisa
I’ve been counselled to do this but I have not committed to memory and therefore I forget to do it! Let us know how it works out for you, over time!
I will do. I think as long as you just say something/anything positive every day your brain will do the rest!
Love and light xxLisa