It’s nearly 10pm.. and I have been thinking about today’s happiness quest since I woke up.
I just find it too hard. To accept nice things people have been saying to me. ..well this was going to be what I was doing today .. ‘taking what others have said and turning them into personal affirmations’ maybe even do a cheesy video..
I just don’t have it in me yet.
…But.. I have found a truth. That everyone is totally unique and amazing and hardly anyone even realises this fact.
I was thinking about people I know today and I know people who would drop anything in an instant to help you out. I know Doctors that fix people up, I know someone who can think up a carpentry design in her head and just make it. Whether it is with their time or through their job I know people who are amazing truly.
I have a friend who makes me laugh till my sides hurt..she is amazing to me.
I have another friend who is very intense and looks inside my soul.. and is amazing to me.
You can be amazing to the community or to one person or even just in giving good energies into the universe (even bad perhaps..which still can make you unique) ….You are special and the only you the universe has.
I am trying to come to terms with compliments that people have given me and I realised I found them all so hard to take. I think a lot of people are like that..
I realised that we are all amazing. Even if we don’t know it. even if we can’t accept it.
Every single one of my friends I find amazing in some way… so why not me?
So My affirmation is ..
I am unique and I am amazing in my own way and I am special!
I found this so difficult to even comprehend saying all day.. but when I realised I felt the same about everyone I know I felt less arrogant saying it.
It’s a universal truth whether you believe it or not.
There is something wonderful about you and you are unique.
Sorry affirmations.. “There is something wonderful about me and I am unique”
I hope you all realise this and affirm!! 
xxLisa
Ha ha, frankly I’m probably a little more unique than I really need to be. But I’m glad you’re starting to see this about yourself, too. Rock on!
Ach! You can never be too Unique!!
Which is probably an oxymoron .. it’s true though!!
Love and light!! xx <3
Uniqueness is kinda binary… nothing gradual about that. And strictly speaking, every particle in the Universe is unique… an implication of the Pauli principle. Now, let’s get to what we all actually mean: We are all eccentric. Eccentricity is very well gradual, in the way that it is the number and intensity of deviations one has from the norm. And something that really can’t be measured is awesomeness, or being amazing, which I am quite sure we all have in common
Indeed!! I don’t believe in ‘The norm’ or in Stats or Standard deviation..because they are people made categorisations.
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I only believe in Awesomeness and uniqueness.
These qualities should work outside mathematical principals!! (I hate maths
well, I studied physics after I graduated from high school, and even though I never finished it, I still know some tricks of the trade. Incidentally, the norm is also a wee bit eccentric, since a group that large contains plenty of minor deviations from individual to individual; Average Joe, as Americans like to call the normal person, who is absolutlely mediocre, only exists in our minds, and the film Idiocracy
Yes.. to be mediocre itself would be very different…
So mediocrity doesn’t really exist..
*My brain hurts*!! *Shakes fist at physics!!* >:(
xx
Even after millions of years into the future, no-one in the universe will ever be exactly the same as each of us, so I agree that we should celebrate our uniqueness and also recognize we are all one in a million.
Herbs.. you are one of the unique ones..like us all.
Your uniqueness shone through while I was sitting next to you at a part about 10 years ago and you were doing funny commentary and made me laugh.. I know you are unique in a million other ways ..but to me you are unique for your gentle ways, mad humour and just because you are you. There are no other Herbies!.. well not ones like you!! xx
Just when you think you have nothing good to say about yourself, out pops a universal truth.
I too am unique, like Jennifer above, perhaps more than the norm. I know I can be someone wonderful. How’s that for a start?
Good start master!
How about, you ARE someone wonderful!
xxLisa
Very inspiring. I need to do some self affirmation myself. Thanks for the reminder.
Good luck! Let me know how you get on!
xxLisa
I think it’s particularly hard for Scottish people to think of ourselves as unique. We’re brought up to value humility, so it doesn’t come naturally to us to think about ourselves that way. In the past, I’ve tried coming up with affirmations and I just found it so fucking cheesy. But I’m now nearly 35 years old, and my self-esteem is still shite, so, quite frankly, I have been so beaten down by life that I am willing to go down the cheesy affirmation route. Hell, I spend so much time focusing on negative “affirmations” that I might as well try to think positively for a change.
Good on you. You are wise when you say that you spend so much time focusing on the negative you might as well think positively! I think even when it feels forced it’s something we should do because it actually physically works (The positive parts of the brain grow and the negative get smaller).
It’s called plasticity and there has been quite a bit of research on it lately. A famous study was one conducted on London taxi drivers who had to memorize a lot of places and the part of the brain that deals with memory in them was a lot bigger than ‘normal’.
I think before we knew this there was no scientific basis and it seemed like something (you are right) that Scottish people might not do. Now that is has been proven to work in a very tangible way maybe there will be a shift in that.
I think you are right about the Scottish culture and us having to sort of ‘suck it up’, try to be ‘brave’ and so on. It’s actually a part of our culture I don’t particularly like. Being unique or even trying to be different IS generally frowned on.. I wonder why that is?!
Anyway.. I am glad you are breaking out of the mould and trying to be positive.
Best wishes. xxLisa
Been a little spread thin lately, but I wanted to let you know that you are amazing! We all are! Some people never figure that out, but I think that finding that out is so important! Keep telling yourself that, and start looking for it in yourself. You will find it
<3 Rebecca
I wondered.. I was worried about you!!
Thank you for dropping in.. I will try not to worry in the future when I don’t hear from you.. I will just know you are off being an amazing woman and helping so many kids grow up into amazing adults!!
Love and light xx
For some crazy reason I have NO problem loving others for the “flaws” that I abhor in myself. Why is it that we hold ourselves to a different standard than others?
I am the same .. I have have known people I have had to pick up off the lino and mother and sooth and heal ..I would never allow anyone to do that for me. I wouldn’t/couldn’t allow myself to be needy in a way that put people out.. but yet I think I used to attract the very people that would do that very willingly.
It’s interesting. Perhaps we should lower our standards for ourselves!
xx
I once read ‘The Golden Notebook’ by Doris Lessing. In it is a paragraph that I’ve been carrying with me for a long time: I’m going to try and remember the quote: ” … the human personality, that sacred, unique flame, is so important that nothing else matters …” I’ve shared it with a few friends at the time and they all backed away from the idea. We’re all ingrained with the maxim that we are nothing, little, sinful, etc. While we all have our faults, that sacredness, specialness is more true than any other silly part of ourselves. If you can get hold of the book I highly recommend it. Not easy reading. People either love it or hate it. I’d like to get hold of my own copy and keep it on the shelf.
It has been added to my ‘to read’ ..erm what’s turning into a pile!!
It sounds interesting though.. I might bump that one up the pile a bit. Beautiful quote.
Thank you xx
I used to have trouble with my flaws and the positive parts of me when I was younger, but now in my thirties I have no problem knowing full well that I am a badass. If I ever get down I always live by the quote from Swingers Trent says … “You’re so money and you don’t even know it.”
It’s taken me till my 30′s to realise I’m not so bad!
I know the same is true for a lot of people.
xx