I don’t think there is anything that can make you feel more happy than if you know you are adding to the quality of a person’s life especially when they need your help.
You know that My partner and I sometimes look after our wee Pal Michael. We take him to swimming lessons, take him for the weekend and take him on wee holidays. We are in a position at the moment where we need to look after him for ..a while.
I think it’s a privilege to be able to do so but it is also bitter sweet because his family are working through issues at the moment and that’s why he has to stay with us.
At the moment we are helping out a friend but more importantly we will be looking after Michael and helping him through.
I know that My partner is a natural with Children and has great training being a Social worker. My knowledge is mainly ..well I suppose the fact I have looked after Michael for short periods of time before but also I have studied counselling and psychology (Child psychology for a year which is handy). I’m a bit nervous because I know that over the weekend things will be ok but I also know that he has some problems that I know will manifest and I just hope I am capable of dealing with them. I hope I will be able to.
I hope that his family can sort things out and he will be back soon but I am happy we can help. It’s not just the amount of time we spend looking after Michaels needs I hope also that in looking after him, somehow his life will be more enriched.
I love passing on knowledge (Even when people don’t wan’t to hear it!) Michaels brain is like a sponge at the moment and he loves learning so I will enjoy that side of things! (haha Not saying I have much knowledge btw..just that I enjoy passing it on!! )
This is just something we learned we would be doing very last minute so Expect the next wee while of happy things to involve a child too!!
I have spent the day clearing space for him and making the bedroom feel that it is more ‘his’. In saying that one of the times he was here he put a lot of my DVDs in a box, put them in that room and wrote on the Box ‘Michaels DVDS!!!’ lol.. He also put clothes that were dirty (I just realised there) In the drawers in that room. I think he feels it’s his space already. We ordered some posters for him and will let him decorate the way he wants.
I better go because actually he will be back from School soon and I need to make him a sandwich.
Obviously, helping to look after someone doesn’t need to be literally looking after them for a while, it can be caring for a friend when they are not well or helping out when they need you. I know I have been doing daft things on some days to make me smile.. I think they are important too because laughing is such a gift. I knew this before I began this journey, that the times I am the happiest is when I am helping other people. I think this is programmed into us.
Gah! Got to go now.. xx